Help needed

Hi everyone I am writing this email to gain support for another little warrior. Reed Anderson was born at 25 weeks gestation and has been in the hospital since. He has been a true warrior fighting daily to gain weight so he can go home with his parents. Reed is up to over 4lbs now, but is currently having a set back with stomach issues. If everyone could lift little Reed up in prayer, our family would greatly appreciating helping another little fighter in their war.

We were back to reality this weekend, having the girls dance recital yesterday, and then having dinner out with my parents, Wendy and Alex. We went to church today and we were able to thank many of our prayer warriors in person. Tears were shed, hugs handed out freely, love was felt. My mom packed up all Elijah’s unworn clothing for me to take back and I finally unpacked many hospital bags. We had a cookout with our best friends in Royal Oak and watched the 9 combined kids jump on the trampoline, play basketball, barbies, and EAT!! We were able to laugh and not have over whelming grief. As I write this and say how life is getting back to normal I can’t help but feel guilt. I am not sure if this is a normal result of loss but, I feel guilty that life moves on so fast, that I should have done something different, that I smiled and laughed when only last Sunday our baby was still here and I was kissing him, singing, and talking to my little man. I know it sounds ridiculous that I say I feel guilt, but I do, and I know one day I wont.

Here are some pictures from the Dancers!!!!



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6 responses to “Help needed

  1. Lexis mom

    Yeah!!! 4 lbs is great!!! Lexi came home at 4 lbs 2 oz! If born at 25 wks … What was birth weight and how many weeks now??? Lexi was 28 wks ( as you well know) and is a totally normal child (as you also well know!). Many prayers to the family … Only people whom have went through it understand even though all mothers/fathers can imagine! Love you guys! Had we known about the recital then I would have brought our four!!! Love any excuse to be close to Kona! Keep us posted! RFS!

  2. Shana

    T! They are adorable! Love the costumes! :0) What song did they dance to? This takes me back to the days of dance with you by mine and Andra’s side (and one year, Brandt’s too! haha) Dress rehearsals, french braids, (“do I have to put my bangs back?!?!”), trash cans, corner, and Deana Carters “did i shave my legs for this” CD on repeat…holy moly the list could go on. Ohh the memories! I think I am going to teach myself how to french braid before I have kids….you know…just incase they become dancers too! haha

  3. Marcie

    Very cute pictures!! (Mia wore that same costume a year of 2 ago.)
    I’m so glad to hear that you had a nice weekend. You deserve it:)

  4. Sherrie Nunheimer

    Glad you had a wonderful weekend. It is strange how things get back to normal so soon. You don’t need to feel guilty Tera. Easier said than done I know. Whatever you did for Elijah was right at the time. You gave him unconditional love and support and thats all you can do, the rest is up to God. He is not in your everyday life now but in your heart everyday! I will keep Reed in prayer.

  5. Rebecca A

    Feeling guilty is normal, but remember that Elijah would want you to be happy. Hang in there…

  6. stacy king estes

    Tera I totally know how you feel. Til this sometimes I feel guilty. It gets better but for me it never goes away. When I go to bed at night is the hardest for me. I have a picture of Noah next to me.

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